5 Ways to Overcome a Loved One’s Opposition to At-Home Care

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More than 8 million Canadians routinely provide informal care to loved ones, according to the Canadian Association of Retired Persons. If this is a task you find yourself needing some help with, in-home care can offer welcome relief in a way that’s beneficial for everyone involved. But a senior parent may sometimes be resistant to professional home care. If this is what you’re experiencing, here are five tips for addressing and overcoming your parent’s resistance to in-home care.

1. Keep Discussions Positive

Conversations about in-home care may come to a standstill if you use negative terms to explain why he or she needs it (e.g., “You don’t get around as well anymore,” “Your house is a mess,” “You’re not eating right,” etc.). Negative phrasing like this may make your parent defensive. Instead, keep the discussions positive by talking about the many ways a professional caregiver could enhance your mom or dad’s daily life.

Every senior has different needs when aging in place. Some simply need occasional assistance with household chores, while others may be managing a serious illness and require more extensive 24-hour care. Vancouver seniors can count on Home Care Assistance to provide the in-home care they need and deserve.

2. Point Out How In-Home Care Will Also Benefit You

Some seniors simply don’t like people fussing over them. If this is a reason for your parent’s resistance to in-home care, appeal to your loved one’s parental instincts by telling him or her how this type of care could also benefit you. For instance, in-home care often allows family caregivers to:

• Have more time for personal needs
• Get more sleep and experience less stress
• Stay physically and mentally healthy

3. Start Small

Resistance to in-home care is sometimes due to lingering misconceptions, one of which is that professional caregivers will take over and do everything. The truth is in-home care is highly flexible and based on client needs. Illustrate this point to your parent. If your mom or dad is still fairly independent, have an in-home caregiver help out with minor tasks like housekeeping and running errands. This will give your parent a chance to get used to this type of care. Plus, your mom or dad will likely be more comfortable if there’s a need to add other care services later.

Elder care agencies can be a great boon to seniors. With the help of the caregivers at Home Care Assistance, your aging loved one can lead a happier and healthier life. We offer a revolutionary program called the Balanced Care Method, which encourages seniors to eat nutritious foods, exercise and socialize regularly, and focus on other lifestyle factors that increase life expectancy.

4. Let Your Parent Make Care-Based Decisions

If you simply inform your mom or dad you’ve decided to arrange for in-home care, you may run into a brick wall of resistance. After all, most parents don’t like to be put in role-reversal situations where their children are telling them what to do. Instead, give your parent a sense of independence and control by letting him or her have the final say on how in-home care is scheduled and the nature of the services provided.

5. Get Some Backup from Other Influential People

Some older adults need a little more convincing to open up to the idea of in-home care. Should this be the case with your loved one, get some help from other family members, friends, or community members. While you don’t want to make it seem like you’re ganging up on your parent, he or she may be more receptive to the idea of in-home care with added encouragement from other trustworthy people. A doctor, clergyperson, or cherished family friend may be willing to talk to your parent about in-home care. 

Many seniors prefer aging in place over moving to assisted living facilities. If your senior loved one needs assistance to remain safe and comfortable while living at home, reach out to Home Care Assistance, a leading Vancouver homecare services agency. Our dedicated in-home caregivers can assist with meal prep, bathing and grooming, exercise, medication reminders, and many other important tasks. To learn about our high-quality in-home care services, give us a call at (778) 279-3634 today.


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